And, a lot of it begins with what kind of people we attract, ya' know what I mean? Attraction is generally something which we do not have control over, and, yet, psychologically, it is said that we DO indeed, send out certain vibes, or, signals which attract a particular type to us! Hmmmn, I attract some very controlling, player types, and, I tell you, I CANNOT figure out why, nor, what kind of vibes I could possibly be sending out that would give them the impression that I am game to play! In all honesty, I was pretty much a player at one time too, not like player Men are, as, I wasn't out to hurt anyone, I was merely looking in all the wrong faces for LOVE, so, perhaps that is the cause of my attracting this type. Who really knows???
I have become so adept at detecting wrong types that the Man whom is in my life, and, the Men near to me, are wonderful people! Yeah, they have some areas to tweak, but, don't we all? And, honestly, doesn't that make for some fun along the way? Not like changing them into what we want them to be, but, refining them a bit, here, and, there? Don't they kind of do the same thing with us? If there were no challenges, we would be bored stiff right out the gate, think???
We learn as we grow, either from age, or, experience, just how important it is to take your time with LOVE, lovers, and, relationships. We learn patience, tolerance, compassion, devotion, how to support, encourage, and, all sorts of character building positives which not only aid the state of the relationship, but, build us into better people. Impulsive behaviour is much to blame for divorces, and, for shattered dreams, or, lives. We have to realize when we are being impulsive, then, nip that right in the bud, otherwise, we are doing nothing more but setting ourselves up for disaster later on. The initial attraction to anything could very well be temporary, this applies to all areas of life, and so, maturity of reasoning is necessary to determine whether we should jump, or, float for a while!!!
Taking our time can be frustrating, which is why so many people leap into situations they later regret; that, and, fear of letting something wonderful slip away! Listen, if something is gone before it is known, then, it wasn't worth the second thought anyway! Don't let your body talk to you, don't let senseless chatter in the mind talk for you, don't let anything but logic, sound reasoning, and, control decide for you what to do next. This is extremely important in finding, securing, and, maintaining LOVE, for EFFORT is the most part of it!!!
Ah, the world of Women, their relationships, and life! A great mix! But, a mix which HAS to be dealt with in the most thoughtful way, otherwise, we are left with but another problem, or many, to deal with! Women are very intelligent, but, we often let externals rule our control, our sensibilities, and, our passions! We will get into this more in a later post!!!
Take care, *GOD* Bless, and, keep you! LOVE, and PEACE always...
LWINSOR © 2010
